Ideas, inspiration and motivation for a FIT LIFE!

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I love to tell my clients that the only place failure is actually success is in the gym.  You are on your 9th rep, and you just….can’t….get….one….more….and you are spent.  You’ve reached failure.  That’s great!  You’ve given it your all!  You’ve left it all on the gym floor.

But really, failure is actually success in the “real” world too, IF you learn from it.  IF you use it as a chance to “Do Over”.

I just read a fabulous post about second chances, and how we can look at our mistakes to move forward and improve our lives.  I’m including it here for you to read  —-but I want to share the highlights.   Because whether we regret a mistake that hurts ourselves or someone else….or we can’t live the (fit) life we want because of past mistakes—we ALL need to be able to give ourselves a second chance.

The author, Judy Belmont, says we should all have a “second chance checklist”–and I’m applying it to healthy living.

1.  Turn unproductive regrets into productive regrets.  

—You regret overeating all weekend, but Monday is a new day…let it begin with a healthy breakfast.  You were too busy last week to exercise, so this week, put it in your calendar.

2. The more wrong turns you made in retrospect, you increase the odds that your future choices will be more informed.

—-We become better advocates of our own health when we learn what does and doesn’t work for us.  You know that trying the latest fad diet won’t last—been there, done that.  Perhaps you can choose to educate yourself about the local gym’s class schedule to choose a place you’ll want to be—because you know buying yet another piece of gym equipment for the basement isn’t getting you to use it.

3. Ask yourself – Did I do the best I could at the time?  Undoubtedly, the answer will be “yes!” 

—The author says, “Unhealthy people make unhealthy decisions and behave in an unhealthy way.  People do not intentionally make self- defeating decisions.  So consider it a noble effort to try your best, even if your best felt short and was misguided.”  I agree!!!!  Start small, because baby steps towards a healthy life are steps in the right direction!

4. Moving from regrets is a ripe opportunity to work on the ability to forgive.  

—-”A lack of forgiveness for oneself or others is one of the most common reasons for depression, anxiety and interpersonal conflict.”  We hold ourselves to such high standards, we often create unrealistic goals.  If  your reunion passed withOUT you losing the 20 pounds you had planned, stop beating yourself up.  NOW you begin a new goal…a smaller, more manageable goal that you can plan and strive for.

Give yourself a second chance.  A healthy life isn’t something reserved for the rich, or people with more time than you, or someone who knows more about exercise, or diet.  A healthy life is YOURS if you want it bad enough, and you are willing to move past your failures.

See Belmont’s post at:

We all have an inner “rule book” we try to live by.  Some of us bend the rules, sometimes we break them….but it’s basically our own personal roadmap of how we live.  I’m sharing mine with you simply to show you what I have found works for me.  I’m not saying it’s the best….it’s just my rule book.

I try to live by the 80/20 rule.  Eighty percent of the time I eat clean, exercise regularly, and get my necessary eight hours of sleep.  The other twenty percent I live a little.  Truly, what’s the point of  living your fit life, it you can’t live your FUN life as well?

So here’s how I treat and train myself.  It’s not for everyone, but it’s what works for me.

  • Exercise six days a week.  For me, it’s generally in the gym.  NO EXCUSES.  I don’t let myself slack off.  Period.
  • Eat breakfast every single day.   Even if I had a big meal the night before.  I truly believe it sets my eating up right for the entire day.
  • Eat every 2-3 hours.  I’m a big believer in snacking.  The right snacks, of course.  But it’s constant fuel, and I am less likely to make mistakes when I’m starving.
  • Eating out is not an excuse to overeat.  You can enjoy a restaurant meal to your liking if you aren’t afraid to just ASK!
  • Alcohol in moderation.  Enough said.
  • Go to bed.  I aim for eight hours of sleep a night.  It means my 15-year old is up after me, but I know what I’m like without my eight.
  • Shop the outside aisles of the grocery store.  I buy very few items that are boxed or packaged.  If it doesn’t grow from the ground, or graze, it’s probably not healthy.

It all works about eighty percent of the time.  The other twenty–well, if it’s a well deserved chocolate chip cookie—leave me alone!

So enough about me…stay tuned!  Look for my Monday motivations….and Nutrition news on Wednesdays.

And if you stop in….could you share YOUR personal philosophy with me?  I would love to hear it!

There are days my clients don’t like me.   They have never said so, but I can tell.   They don’t want to do what I’m telling them to do, and they don’t want hear what I’m saying.   That’s ok.  I get it.  There’s days when I don’t like me either.   My inner voice sometimes annoys me, “Seriously, you want to eat THAT?”

But on the days that my clients DO as I ask, LISTEN to my advice, and ASK for help—I know they get it.   Those are the successful days that translate into successful clients.  Those successes are as individual as the client…some want to lose weight, others want better range of motion, some want to be stronger.

So what is a successful client?   Notice I said “successful”, not “ideal”.   They’re different.   Trainers would have a blast with an “ideal” client.   But we celebrate, and endure with our successful clients.   The dictionary defines ideal as “a standard of perfection or excellence.”   That’s the client that shows up on time, gives 100 percent every time, never complains, never has a setback, never quits.   That client also doesn’t exist.

Our successful clients are our “in the trench warriors”.   They show up to their appointments (yes, on time) with the right attitude.   It’s an attitude that says to me, “Even though I’m tired now, or stressed, maybe even cranky—I’m ready to do this.  I’m ready to put it all aside and get to work”.

Successful clients are committed.  To their gym time, to their bodies, to their health.   They make themselves a priority.

Successful clients do their homework.   If you spend three hours a week with me, you have 165 hours left to live your fit life.  What you do at home matters JUST AS MUCH as what you do in the gym with me!

Successful clients want to learn.   They want to know how macronutrients affect their bodies.  They want new recipes to try at home.  They are eager to try a new exercise that works for their fitness level.   They want to learn what will help them reach their goal.

I love to celebrate the little successes as well as the big ones.   My clients may not always like me, but they know I’m going to be there to recognize and celebrate success with them.


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